Strategies For Helping Children With Transition Challenges
2007-05-09

By D. E. Herrod, B.Ed.E, M.Div

Transitioning from one activity to another can be difficult for some children. It seems that no matter what the situation or activity, change is traumatic. What can be done to make transitions easier?

First, discuss what is going to happen and clearly state expectations. Children do much better if they have an understanding of what is going to happen. The discussion should be short, practical and age appropriate. Also, set forth consequences and rewards. The consequences and rewards need to be logical, natural and appropriate. For example, you expect your child to pick up all of the Legos when they are done. The consequence of not picking up the Legos would loose the privilege of playing with them for a day or so. The reward would be being allowed to play with Legos more frequently.

Establish a clear starting and ending time for the activity. While time may not be meaningful to children, it is better to use clear terms such as fifteen minutes rather than vague terms like “a few minutes”. Use a clock/and or a timer to enforce time limits. Setting a timer gives your child some control over the situation. Digital timers are easier for young children to use.

Provide signals for transition times. Give your child a reminder that a transition will occur in 5 minutes, etc and briefly state expectations. Issue instructions in a matter of fact manner, avoid emotional arguments. This is not the time for discussions or negotiations. Teach your child to concisely and logically present requests for more time. Help them understand that you will listen to and consider logical requests but may or may not grant them.

Providing children with the structure and skills for transitions makes life easier for all involved.